"TO AVOID CRITICISM,
"Don't be distracted by criticism. Remember: The only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you."
"There is a luxury in self-reproach. When we blame ourselves we feel no one else has a right to blame us."
"Be so good they can't ignore you."
RECOGNIZE YOUR THOUGHTS, FEELINGS & ENERGY
You are irritated about mistakes that are being made and on the attack.
- "Everything about this is wrong."
- "I'm irritated about how much is wrong here."
- "You don't know how not to make mistakes."
- "No matter what I do, nothing I do is right."
- "There is something wrong with me."
REALIZE WHAT IS DRIVING YOUR MINDSET
- You sit in a self-righteous, negative place where you tear things apart, item by item.
- Even if you are right there is no way for someone to accept your point of view without feeling put down.
- You're angry about how imperfect you think you are. This erodes your self-confidence and any appreciation you might have for yourself - it's a poison. You treat others the same way.
- You always set unachievable standards to maintain a negative attitude about not achieving them.
- You "YES BUT" everything and minimize and/or invalidate the positive.
- A critical mindset here is not critical thinking. Critical thinking is in the domain of rigor. A critical mindset is mental anger that is not productive.
RESOLVE TO BALANCE YOUR STRENGTHS
- Realize that everything can be improved, so tearing it apart will not make it better.
- See where improvements can be made and see it as simply a characteristic, not a negative flaw that deserves condemnation.
- Ask yourself where your vision of perfection comes from. Where did you learn to be critical? How do you know that something is not perfect - compared to what? How many things in this world are perfect?
- Remind yourself daily that you are a work in progress; enjoy the journey.
- Set realistic expectations for yourself. Once you accomplish your goal, thank yourself.
- Find 3 things a day to appreciate about yourself.