1. is the anger that you feel when things are not moving in the direction that you want
  2. irritated with the feeling of being powerless in this situation
  3. it arises from the perceived resistance to the fulfillment of individual will
  4. to make (plans, efforts, etc.) worthless or of no avail

"Frustration is the wet nurse of violence."
David Abrahansen

I'm not telling you it is going to be easy, I'm telling you it is going to be worth it.

Success is not built on success. It's built on failure. It's built on frustration. Sometimes it's built on catastrophe."
Sumner Redstone

"Change is inevitable—except from a vending machine."
Robert C. Gallagher

  1. "How many times do I have to go over this?"
  2. "Why can't they just do it right?"
  3. "Jeeze, this is killing me, it is going so slow!"
  4. "If I have to explain this one more time..."
  5. "This jerk is soooo stubborn, I can't believe it."
Your energy is high but it is turning back on itself because reality is not moving fast enough. You just want to push through the resistance.


  1. You have gone from urgency to impatience.
  2. You are unwilling to accept the situation and work with it.
  3. You are making the other person wrong for not going the way you want and/or as fast as you want.
  4. You are experiencing resistance because you are using force.
  5. You are throwing a temper tantrum because things aren't going exactly your way. You're fixed on a single way of doing things.
  6. You are insisting on how wrong others are and dramatizing your "heroic" efforts.
  7. You think you are justified at being upset with the other person.
  8. You are creating a situation where the other person or the situation has to change in order for you to feel satisfied. Even if the change will not satisfy you.


  1. Realize that your impatience is stopping the progress.
  2. Take a step back, shift into neutral, stop pushing.
  3. Ask: What do I need to learn from this situation? What am I missing? What new way can I approach this problem?
  4. Engage and get creative; look at multiple ways of accomplishing the goal.
  5. Step into their shoes and find out what is stopping them and help them to be more successful.
  6. Find how you can create urgency instead of impatience.
  7. Look for ways around the obstacle versus insisting that the obstacle change.




© 2016 Jim Peal