"Suspicion is the silent killer of relationships."
"The suspicious mind believes in a formidable evil lurking in every person."
"The truth hurts, lies poison but suspicion is torture."
"Better to be occasionally cheated than perpetually suspicious."
"The moment there is suspicion about a person's motives, everything he does becomes tainted."
"Suspicion always haunts the guilty mind."
"Suspicion is creative in its nature. It can bring out and develop the evil it conceives."
RECOGNIZE YOUR THOUGHTS, FEELINGS & ENERGY
You are hyper alert and uncomfortable in your skin. You feel exposed and vulnerable on one side and searching for evidence to justify your paranoia that you never can seem to get on the other side.
- "I know you are up to something."
- "You are not saying what you really mean."
- "I just know you are talking about me behind my back...and making me look bad."
- "You are just trying to get ahead of me."
- "I just know they're up to something."
- "I just know they're trying to take advantage of me."
REALIZE WHAT IS DRIVING YOUR MINDSET
- You are afraid because you are expecting some sort of attack or threat. You don't feel powerful.
- You think they have hidden motives so you don't believe what the other says. You never truly engage or have real conversations with the other person. You don't really talk with them directly.
- You're out of touch with yourself and therefore cannot adequately or accurately sense other people, which makes you suspicious of everyone.
- Being suspicious keeps others at a distance and gives you the illusion of safety. You think that your suspicion keeps you from being hurt but really you are just missing out on what life has to offer.
- Your suspicion of others creates a negative response from others. They feel repelled by you. They can become defensive or just wonder what you are really thinking about them and imagine it is something negative.
- You are oblivious to how your suspicious mindset is creating others to be uncomfortable and suspicious of you.
RESOLVE TO MOVE FORWARD
- Regardless of the other person, identify where you are not experiencing being confident. What are you not feeling confident about? What do you need to do for yourself to restore your confidence?
- Be curious about the other person. Engage and ask the questions you have on your mind. Ask them about their agenda and intentions. Give them the opportunity to reveal their agenda. Identify your "real" questions, then ask from a place of neutrality.
- Clarify your relationship with them so that you can move forward
- Strengthen your relationships where trust exists: Ask yourself, "How can I create this feeling in my other relationships?"